I find it strange how young adults who are over 18 want to invite their parents to meetings with higher education administration. Is this appropriate? Or am I just old school? We’ve heard of the rise of helicopter parents who think they are helping but I think this may be to the detriment of the child. Sometimes students will say “My parents pay my tuition and they believe they should be included”, while this may be accurate I wonder how helpful it is for the student’s personal development for parents or guardians to speak to administrators on behalf of their children.
At times parents support or promote clear violations of policies or guidelines that are in place and they believe they are entitled to do so because they “pay an administrators salary”. I’ve heard stories of parents secretly signing offer letters on behalf of their children, advising a child to withdraw from an interview without sufficient notice (same day) or to accept offers only to renege at later date when something better comes along. I can appreciate a parent advocating on behalf of their child especially in instances of unfair treatment but at what point does a parent move out of the way and allow a child to make decisions about their own lives? Does the child have to be 18, 21 or 44? Where does directing and supporting your child end and enabling bad behavior begin?